whenever I start working with a new client, I ask, “what do you want in life?” I then typically hear about everything they don’t like, “I don’t like my job” “I don’t want to be fat anymore” “I don’t want to be single”….

When we focus on what we don’t like, we tune our mind to it. We notice the problem more, we become hyper aware of it, and the problems get bigger if only in our own mind.

As we stay  focused on what we do want- we give our mind clearer directions about what we do want.  To engage your deeper mind in working for you, give it clear directions, and you can do this through the language we use. There is a part of our mind ( our unconscious mind) that doesn’t hear negatives.

I am going to ask you not to do something…don’t think of a yellow butterfly because as you do it will turn blue and fly out the window. How well did you do with not thinking of the butterfly? Consciously, we understand don’t, but our unconscious mind uses mental pictures to interpret our words. Its these mental pictures that direct our attention and focus. These mental pictures tune our mind.

Often with weight, we talk about a weight loss goal, we may say, ” I want to lose 20 lbs.” When you say that phrase, what does it bring to your attention? The 20 lbs you don’t want!

Now say the phrase, “I desire to be my ideal healthy body” when you say this phrase, what does it draw your attention to? You even picture being the ideal healthy body and you may even feel the positive feeling of well-being that comes with feeling good about you.

Paying attention to your words is only one of the tools outlined in my book, “Lighten Up Train your Brain to Slim your Body: How to change habits, cravings and addictions for lasting weight loss success.” You can read more details at: http://www.lightenup.me/book

Or you can join the 12 Week Teleclass series which covers both books chapter by chapter, plus the 6 audio set for training your brain to change old habits and cravings, live calls with demonstrations and more:  www.lightenup.me/TB12weeks

Remember: Stay focused on what you want – your unconscious mind is always listening!